Making Friends
Developing Friendships in Spain
This article was submitted by Deborah Coates, reiki healer,life coach and author of 'The Five Star Hippy',a funny satorical look at the 20th Century woman. In her book Deborah touches on the subject of friendship in the chapter called 'rainbow friends'.
It appears to me having lived in England and Italy (without ex pat community) It does not matter were you live or who you are we are all still very much part of our early infancy playground behaviour pattern. It is very simple you either make friends easily or you dont. It does not matter if you have nannies or silicone breasts if you drive a fiat uno or a bentley. The key to this conundrum is very simple it is based purely on attraction. Its how we made friends as kids and it goes something like this: Do I fancy you? Because be it male on female or female on female this is the fundamental basis of friendship which will develop into a full blown relationship should you not put up too many boundaries. We actually and this is proven fancy our friends. I remember ten years ago when my son started school wanting to befriend this woman at the school gates but I was given the frostiest cold shoulder - she just did not fancy me. I let it go but did develop other friendships with mums who did fancy me and vica versa. SO the key to developing friendships should not be asthetic it should be organic/chemical. Next time you enter a group looking to form friendships try to use this technique - Who do I fancy and you will be amazed usually attraction is organic and chemical and you may find its a lot easier to make friends than you previousley thought. Flirt a little you may end up with more friends than you had bargained for. Ps I am moving to Marbella and I am looking to rent a property in the neuva andalucia area but I have a dog - v clean I suppose only someone who fancies my dog would consider renting for 6 months - but that's another story.